I wasn't going to make any.....

I started this year without any resolutions simply because I keep making more or less the same ones every year and seem to get nowhere. So when I came across an article on the web (can’t remember the site) that listed the Top 10 suggestions for New Year’s Resolutions for couples, I thought, “Why not? Seeing as how I’m married and all...might as well give it a try”. Plus it helps that they said that “even if you decide to keep each of the resolution even 50% of the time, it will make a difference in the quality of your relationship”. (50% of the time? Hah! I should be able to do that!.....I think).

Anyway in case you’re curious, the list is as follows :

1.    Vow not to keep secrets from each other.

2.    Only say positive things about your spouse to family and friends.

3.    Flirt with each other.

4.    Learn your partner’s “love language” and find some way to show him or her that you love her in your partner’s own love language.

5.    Resolve to always show respect, even if you disagree.

6.    Start a gratitude journal.  Every day, write one thing about your life together that you like and appreciate.

7.    Vow to spend 20 minutes together each night just debriefing on your days while apart.

8.    Find one nice and loving thing to say to your partner each day.

9.    Begin and end each day with sincere signs of affection, even if they only last for 6 seconds.

10.  Promise yourself that this is the year to learn forgiveness

After going through the list, I realized that you don’t necessarily have to be married to do all the things on the list (in fact, maybe I should have started earlier....when we were dating). If any of you are already practicing this in your relationship, I say “Kudos to you!” (and Cheers to me for attempting it!)

p/s...Mi Amor, the article also says that it will be much better if both partners can commit and follow through...*hint hint*